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Intuition Versus Self Talk

8 Nov

Many of my readers are familiar with my spiritual teacher, mentor, and friend Kathryn Harwig.  She recently wrote a piece that is a very common-sense, down-to-earth expose on intuition.  I liked it so much I asked her permission to reprint it here:

Recently someone asked me, “How do I know if the information I am getting is coming from my intuition or from my own self talk?”  This is a very good question, and one that everyone who is serious about being intuitive needs to ask on occasion.  It is a challenge to be intuitive about yourself and most of us find that it is far easier to give someone else a psychic reading than to give ourselves good intuitive advice.

Why?  Because our own hopes, dreams, worries and fears tend to get in the way of our hearing our inner psychic, at least when we are asking for information for ourselves.  Many people solve this dilemma, at least in part, by consulting with other psychics.  But, we also want and need to use our intuition to make our own lives better.  So, it is necessary, I think, to be able to distinguish the voice of our inner self talk and the quiet voice of our intuitive wisdom.

I attended a talk once where the speaker said that our unconscious mind was unable to hear the word “Not”.  Her point was that when we make affirmations such as, “I do NOT want to be fat”, our unconscious mind only hears, “I am fat.”  I don’t know if this is true or not, but, upon reflection, I realized that my intuition almost never uses the word “not.”

I will hear, for example, “take this route to work” rather than “do NOT take your usual route”, or, “make this telephone call” rather than, “do NOT call this person.”  My “tips for better living” mind, on the other hand, is always telling me what not to do.  Thus, when I hear advice about what not to do, I am generally certain it is coming from the part of me that is fearful about something, rather than my intuition.

Another way I differentiate between intuition and self talk is that intuition speaks without emotion.  It often “hits” out of the blue with no relationship to what I am doing or even thinking about it.  It comes as an emotionless statement in my mind, or a mental picture or even a physical sensation.  Seldom though, does it carry a strong emotional charge with it. Even when I see, in my minds eye, something that would normally frighten me, I am able to view it intuitively as if I am watching a movie that doesn’t involve me.

My inner voice though, seems to thrive on emotion.  When I think about something and ruminate on it, I tend to feel a lot of emotions.  Whether the emotion I feel is excitement, joy, fear or worry is irrelevant.  Feeling that type of emotion along with a thought is a clue to me that the thought is not an intuitive message.

Another clue is that intuitive information tends to come without any value judgment attached to it.  My intuition gives me messages without any sense of “good” or “bad”, “right” or “wrong.”  Sometimes, after getting this information, my conscious mind jumps in, placing judgment on what I have received.  But, the actual vision or words or feelings never carry a sense of rightness or wrongness.  That is because intuitive information is valueless.  It is never right or wrong…good or bad.  It simply is.

Not long ago I got an email from some one who had heard me giving intuitive insights to audience members.  Her email said, “How do you differentiate between common sense and intuition?  When I listened to your intuitive messages, I thought, “this is just common sense advice.”

She made a very good point.  As I pondered that I thought, “Where does common sense come from?”  We talk about “common sense” as if it is something we can define and understand, but what is it, exactly?  I laughed to myself when I realized that common sense is just another way to describe intuition.  It is that wiser part of ourself that “just knows things.”

How do you tell what is intuition and what is self talk?  I would love to hear from you!

Blessings, Kathryn


From Tragedy to Transformation – A Mother’s Story

26 May

After many months of waiting and anticipation on my part, I’m happy to announce that I have an article in the June edition of THE EDGE – SOUL OF THE CITIES magazine.   This is the twin cities premiere metaphysical magazine.

As many of you know, for the past six years, Kathryn Harwig has my teacher, my mentor, and my friend.  I would not be where I am today if Kathryn had not come into my life.

So I wasn’t surprised when I read Kathryn’s article – just a few pages beyond mine.  They tie in together quite nicely I think and of course this is yet another example of how The Universe works.  I was getting impatient and wondering whether my article would ever be published.  Now I understand why it happened when it did.

Another lesson for me in trusting that The Universe has it all under control.

See page 12-13 and page 16.

And, have a GREAT day!

Listen Live Tonight At 5!

3 May

I will be Suzane Northrop’s guest tonight on Blog Talk Radio. 

Listen Live at 5 pm CDT    OR    listen to the archived show

Walking With Spirit – February 23rd!

5 Feb

On February 23rd at 7:00 pm (CST) I will be a guest with Monique Chapman on her radio program, Walking With Spirit.

Check out Monique’s website and her work – mark your calendar and listen live on the 23rd!

How Ironic!

13 Jan

When I was working at my company I had the opportunity each year to be supplied with a Franklin Planner.  FP’s are very nice, leather-bound booklets with day by day, week by week, month by month calendars … all designed to help the busy professional keep track of the meetings they needed to attend, business contacts, etc.

As nice as they were, I never chose to have one.  I couldn’t see spending the money (even though it was not my money) to have something I didn’t think I needed (and I didn’t).  After all, it was enough for me to write any meetings I had on my calendar on my desk.  It served the purpose just fine (and I never missed a meeting!)

Now that I’m retired, and 2010 has begun, I actually Need a planner!  Who would have thought!  Not that I’m going to run out and buy a Franklin … but I could really use one.  I found myself yesterday printing out calendars on my computer for January, February and March so that I could keep track of everything I have going on. 

It hit me this morning how hilarious it is that it’s looking like I’m going to have more meetings and I’ll be traveling more now that I’m retired than I ever did when I was gainfully employed!  As I’ve said before – The Universe definitely does have a sense of humor … and be careful what you ask for … cause you just might get it!

To date, here are some upcoming events:

January 27th – 5:00 pm CST – guest on TAKE A SOUL STEP with Cathryn Taylor on Blog Talk Radio.

February 6-13 – travel to Florida to celebrate 30 years of marriage

February 19-22 – attend Parent Forum in Florida hosted by the Michael Minger Foundation

February 23 – 7:00 pm CST – guest on WALKING WITH SPIRIT radio program with Monique Chapman

March 4th – speaker at a metaphysical book club starting in Owatonna

I will also be traveling to Indianapolis sometime in February to participate with other parents in filming a video on fire safety prevention for college students.

Hmm … maybe I do need to spend today looking for the perfect planner?

Whatever you choose to do today – do it with love and enjoy!

Owning All of Life: 45 Life Lessons

2 Nov

I found this on another blog and thought it was so good I had to post here as well.
It was written by Regina Brett, a pulitzer nominated columnist with The Plain Dealer in Cleveland, Ohio.

Regina wrote this on the occasion of her fiftieth birthday in 2006. It offers good advice on owning surrender, being ourselves, going with the flow and living life in joy!

1. Life isn’t fair, but it’s still good.
2. When in doubt, just take the next small step.
3. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone.
4. Your job won’t take care of you when you are sick. Your friends and family will, so stay in touch.
5. Pay off your credit cards every month.
6. You don’t have to win every argument. Agree to disagree.
7. Cry with someone. It’s more healing than crying alone.
8. It’s OK to get angry with God. He can take it.
9. Save for retirement starting with your first paycheck.
10. When it comes to chocolate, resistance is futile.
11. Make peace with your past so it won’t screw up your present.
12. It’s OK to let your children see you cry.
13. Don’t compare your life to others. You have no idea what their journey is all about.
14. If a relationship has to be a secret, you shouldn’t be in it.
15. Everything can change in the blink of an eye. But, don’t worry, God never blinks.
16. Take a deep breath, it calms the mind.
17. Get rid of anything that isn’t useful, beautiful or joyful.
18. Whatever doesn’t kill you really does make you stronger.
19. It’s never too late to have a happy childhood. But the second one is up to you and no one else.
20. When it comes to going after what you love in life, don’t take no for an answer.
21. Burn the candles, use the nice sheets, wear the fancy lingerie. Don’t save it for a special occasion. Today is special.
22. Over prepare, then go with the flow.
23. Be eccentric now, don’t wait for old age to wear purple.
24. The most important sex organ is the brain.
25. No one is in charge of your happiness but you.
26. Frame every so-called disaster with these words, “In five years, will this matter?”
27. Always choose life.
28. Forgive everyone everything.
29. What other people think of you is none of your business.
30. Time heals almost everything. Give time time.
31. However good or bad a situation is, it will change.
32. Don’t take yourself too seriously, no one else does.
33. Believe in miracles.
34. God loves you because of who God is, not because of anything you did or didn’t do.
35. Don’t audit life. Show up and make the most of it now.
36. Growing old beats the alternative of dying young.
37. Your children get only one childhood.
38. All that truly matters in the end is that you loved.
39. Get outside every day, miracles are waiting everywhere.
40. If we all threw our problems in a pile and saw everyone else’s, we’d grab ours back.
41. Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need.
42. The best is yet to come.
43. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up, and show up.
44. Yield.
45. Life isn’t tied with a bow – but it is still a gift.


Enjoy the day!

Another Opportunity

16 Aug

My plans have just been finalized and I am thrilled to be in Washington DC from September 16-20 as part of Campus Firewatch.

I have joined forces with CFW headed by an angel named Ed Comeau. Along with other parents across the country who have lost a college-aged child to fire, we support Ed’s efforts to educate students, colleges, landlords, and the public on fire safety and prevention.

Our goal is to get all 50 states to declare September as “National Campus Fire Safety Awareness Month.” To date, we have 14 states who have done so. We will be on Capitol Hill on September 17th as part of this effort.

I can’t think of a better place to be – it is yet another way I can honor my precious Elizabeth and for that I am so very grateful and happy.

To learn more about the work of Campus Firewatch, please check out the website at:

What We Can Learn From Michael Jackson

4 Jul

1. Money does not buy happiness.

2. Celebrity is never what it seems.

3. Childhood is a necessary and very
important part of our lives.

4. Being famous does not mean you love yourself.

5. Sometimes you are your own worst

6. Money and fame do not bring peace
or a long life.

7. Our life is what WE choose
to make it — even those the world
knows by name.

8. Celebrities have problems and issues
just like us so called regular people.

9. We all long to love and to be loved.

10. People search in many places to find peace and happiness – drugs, alcohol, plastic surgery, all in search of something that can only be found within ourselves and through a higher power.

Rest in peace Michael – you deserve it.


28 Jun

The past couple of weeks have been so enjoyable, relaxing, fun, the adjectives could just keep flowing.

Anna has been in Thailand/Bali for almost two weeks now and with her blog, her facebook posts, and emails she doesn’t feel far away at all.

I spent last week on beautiful Lake Vermillion with Roger, my parents, and sister Sue. My brothers Mike & Randy, and nephew Thomas spent some time with us as well.

We had such a great week. Our “cabin” was absolutely beautiful and had absolutely everything we could want – right down to some cold beer in the frig when we arrived.

The weather was beautiful, the fish were biting and we had plenty of time to read and relax.

Yesterday was spent at the annual Baldwin reunion, held this year in Ortonville. My cousin Brenda’s daughters, Amber and Vanessa and families came up from Texas and we had good ole fashioned Texas food and boy was it good!

It’s always so nice to see everyone again when we are relaxed and not together for a funeral.

On the way to the reunion yesterday Sue’s cell phone rang and it was Anna, calling us via Skype from Bali. She is doing well and having the time of her life.


Love Inspires Faith Everyday

A Poem for Today

10 May


I got a poem the other day from my friend, Linda Turnbull.  Linda and I are in the same “club.”  Her daughter, Julie, died in an off-campus fire at Miami University of Ohio in April, 2005.

We are always connected to our children – no matter where they are – no matter how old they are.

 The Cord

We are connected,
My child and I, by
An invisible cord
Not seen by the eye.

It’s not like the cord
That connects us ‘til birth
This cord can’t be seen
By any on Earth.

This cord does it’s work
Right from the start.
It binds us together
Attached to my heart.

I know that it’s there
Though no one can see
The invisible cord
From my child to me.

The strength of this cord
Is hard to describe.
It can’t be destroyed
It can’t be denied.

It’s stronger than any cord
Man could create
It withstands the test
Can hold any weight.

And though she is gone,
Though she’s not here with me,
The cord is still there
But no one can see.

It pulls at my heart
I am bruised…I am sore,
But this cord is my lifeline
As never before.

I am thankful that God
Connects us this way
A mother and child
Death can’t take away!

(Author unknown)