Dearest Elizabeth

19 Sep

As I write this letter to you today, I cannot help but reflect back to thirteen years ago.  It was a day much like today — sunny and beautiful, with the hints of Fall beginning to make their appearance.  I cannot help but be overwhelmed with a surge of so many different emotions.  I could write on and on about how I wish things could have been different, or how one learns to live in joy again when someone you love so deeply leaves you so quickly.  But these are all topics for another day.

Today, my heart and soul are overwhelmingly and unequivocally filled with LOVE and GRATITUDE for YOU. Your physical presence has been absent for 13 years now, and we all miss that so much.  As I heard from so many people, you always knew how to have fun Liz — even when there seemed to be no fun to be had.

I will always remember our last Thanksgiving — after a wonderful meal we played a game — it was charades of sorts.  You chose the word thimble and your task was to get us to say it.  Only problem, you had no idea what a thimble was used for — so you described it as only you could — as a “finger condom” — much to my chagrin and embarrassment as your grandmother and great aunt sat nearby!  There isn’t a Thanksgiving that goes by that we don’t talk about you and remember and laugh about your “finger condom.”

I will be forever grateful to my family, my friends, and all of your friends, Liz.  They all continue to boldly speak your name at every opportunity and we all remember and smile and sometimes we just laugh.  Your friends have gone on to live wonderful, productive lives.  They are husbands, wives, mothers, fathers, teachers, business people, psychologists, doctors, nurses, interpreters, and many other things.  And it is good, it is all so good!

You taught us all so many things through your death.  You taught me most of all that love never dies, even if people do.  There are no words to adequately thank you for reaching out so quickly in those first days, weeks and months, to let me know — to let us all know — that you were fine — you were living a wonderful, new marvelous life — and you continue to make your presence known — even today — and I am SO GRATEFUL.

Roger, Anna and I REALIZE that because of YOU, we are better people — and it is so true Liz.  You opened up new possibilities in each of our lives that were completely foreign and even scary to us, and you walked with each of us every step of the way.  Because of YOU we each do what we can to make this world a better place — and WE ARE GRATEFUL because of YOU.

We continue to be a family of four, we continue to live in love each and every day because of YOU.

So on this day, I say THANK YOU Liz.  YOU have made a difference — in our lives and in the lives of many others.

Well done, good and faithful servant — until we meet again.

Love Always,


2 Timothy 4:7:  “I have fought the good fight, I have finished the race, I have kept the faith.”

Elizabeth Wencl  Elizabeth Jean Wencl     9/12/83  –  9/20/03

5 Responses to “Dearest Elizabeth”

  1. Beth Larson September 19, 2015 at 1:25 pm #

    Sitting here in my chair weeping over the beauty of this love letter to your girl Kimber. Because of Liz’s life and death you have shown so many people how to keep walking forward in life with courage, grace and joy after a life altering storm passes. Feeling awfully blessed to be part of your tribe, xo beth

  2. Antonia Riva September 19, 2015 at 3:06 pm #

    Wonderful post…. I am so touched. Love you, Kim ❤

  3. Maddy September 19, 2015 at 4:12 pm #

    So great, Kim. Thanks for posting. I will never forget September 12 or 20th. Love all of you Wencls!

  4. Carrie Rosell September 19, 2015 at 5:17 pm #

    Your daughter was born in the same year I was born and past away during the same month my infant daughter was no longer ill and was released from hospice care. For some reason, I think I was supposed to see this letter today. My daughter has severe special needs, and that, too, has changed my family for the better. How beautiful and fragile life is. I’m glad your family has found peace and healing. Thank you for sharing.

  5. joannbruhn September 19, 2015 at 6:56 pm #

    Aww, thank you, Kim, for sharing your thoughts and your love for Liz. You are a shining light for so many others! Hugs, JoAnn

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